You’ve had a recent disappointment or failure and this one has really set you back.
You’re questioning whether your business is good for you, whether you’re doing the right thing at all, even whether your life has any meaning? (Because you are your business, right?)
On the other hand, you’re beating yourself up and shoulding on yourself for what did/didn’t do, getting more upset at yourself because you can’t just drop it and move on…Because we’ve all heard how you gotta keep your vibes up there real high so you can attract business.
What a frickin pressure cooker! What’s the best way to navigate all these miserable feelings?
First, remember we’re all human as well as that divine high-vibe attractor. Your humanity needs a little moment to process through your feelings of disappointment. Give yourself a specific amount of time to process your feelings. You want to get to a point where you’re feeling pretty emotionally clear and recovered from this setback.
Getting Back to High Vibes
Yes, it’s true that our vibration is constantly attracting like vibration to us. Therefore all of the success gurus preach about making sure we stay in the high vibe of our ideal outcome, so we can attract/manifest it.
I’m going to walk you 180 degrees back to your high vibes.
When you have a setback, a disappointment or something you’re calling a failure, after you process your human feelings, acknowledge everything you learned. Thomas Edison failed to create the lightbulb 10,000 times. And when people of his day marveled to him about all the failures he overcame, his response was “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Now there’s an expert at overcoming emotions!
Training yourself to look for the positive, starting with everything little thing you learned, opens up your mind to greater possibilities, ie, expansive thinking.
Go beyond “I learned I never wanna do that again!” and look for deeper learnings — how did you become more effective, how did your perspective expand, what did you do right?
The giant cruise ship of your mind is starting to head in a more positive direction…
Keep the mental training going so you can unravel your limited human thinking.
Now ask yourself, what could be the possible good from this situation? You’ve already got a starter list of good learnings. What else did the universe give you here? Were you spared a worse situation? What are some “hidden” gifts you could acknowledge if you really open up your mind?
This takes a little creativity and some self-discipline. I highly recommend making a list of a minimum of 10 things (preferably 25 or even 100) that are possible good outcomes from this situation.
It’s our human nature to tune out this stuff! Instead, go Easter egg hunting. You are training yourself to see more opportunity, more possibilities, to expand your thinking. This expansive thinking is a higher vibe, and it also comes in handy as an entrepreneur…it benefits you to notice opportunities where others don’t!
As you expand your thinking towards opportunity and positive outcomes, your vibration naturally lifts, re-aligning you with what you want to create.
Let’s recap the Recover from a Bummer process.
1) An event happens that appears “negative.”
2) Acknowledge your human emotional response. Give yourself some time and space to just feel. Don’t stuff your feelings. And don’t wallow in them either! 😉 Complete your emotional processing, arrive at a resolution.
3) Make a list of lessons learned, staying in the positive as much as possible.
4) Make a list of all of the possible good things that came from, or might come from, the situation. Adding to your learnings, keep going to a minimum of 10, 25, or even 100. You’re training yourself to take the blinders off to greater opportunity.
Our humanity, and specifically our habit of judging something as negative based on past experiences, can put blinders on us to the total realm of options and possibilities. In reality, every possibility is still available. As you tune into this truth, you grow, expand, and maintain a higher vibe that naturally magnetizes more of what you want.
Watch what happens and be delightfully impressed with what the universe brings you next!