What do you do when you don’t feel like Doing?
Actually, there’s a part of you digging in your heels, getting fussy. This part of you is acting out, and it’s all you can do to keep her in check and get any little thing done.
We have shy and hurt little children of all ages inside us. And sometimes they act out and throw off your day.
When you’re feeling fussy, do you ever stop and ask yourself why?
Why would you take time out to do this? Because it Saves Time. Otherwise, she is going to keep you spinning instead of producing. The quicker you can hear her out and find out what she really needs, the quicker you can get your game back on.
Inner Witnessing to get Back to Productivity
Paying attention and listening to your fussy inner child is what I call “inner witnessing.” It’s a very potent form of self-awareness that creates more balance and inner strength. Really listening, with full attention and presence, is a highly underrated super-power in our society. With the constant movement of our entrepreneurial lives, we rarely take time for this type of personal intimacy with ourselves.
Have you ever seen a shy animal or child open up and relax when they receive attention, love, and kindness from someone? This can happen inside of us too.
As children, we may not have received the full attention we needed from our busy parents. So we all have inner children who are actually starved for attention. When we give them center stage and we really listen, things shift and change inside us.
Give yourself space to be quiet for a minute, and listen to your fussy inner voice. When you pay attention to that little kid inside of you, he or she flourishes. It could be the first time she’s ever been able to share her story, especially with someone who really cares. As you listen, you’ll learn amazing things about yourself.
Find out what she needs, and let your inner grown-up give her what she needs.
Give that little kid inside who’s been acting out and messing up things in your life a chance to get her needs met and grow up. With your attention and love, these defiant little parts inside you can mature. Aligning more of you adds fire to your passionate pursuits.
What if just witnessing wasn’t enough for her to grow up?
Turn up your self-healing volume by opening your heart to your grumpy inner kid. First turbo-charge your heart with thoughts of wonderful people, places and things that inspire your love. You may also wish to be grateful to the divine. These activities naturally expand, relax and open your heart.
Now turn back to your wounded inner kiddo and shine your bright heart-light while you listen to their story. Imagine your shiny heart is beaming directly into theirs. You may be able to see, feel or know that she/he is becoming more whole. Your inner kiddo will become less fussy, sad or angry, then start to smile and see things more positively and hopefully. When your wounded inner child seems whole and healed, invite that part to come back home inside you.
Cultivating your witness self and these forms of self-healing can give you more of your personal resources back. Then you can move ahead faster and happier in your life.
Shamanic Perspective: Witnessing and Self-Love result in Soul Retrieval
From a Shamanic perspective, the healing process described here is a form of Soul Retrieval. Soul Retrieval is when we can find a part of ourselves that is not integrated with us in the present time, then we heal it up and bring it home. You can read my series about Soul Retrieval for more information on this topic.
Book Recommendation: Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw