A Raw List of Self-Love Attributes

 Enjoy my list of self-love attributes, a personal guidebook to your success.

• Stop shooting yourself in the foot and repeating negative patterns, then getting mad at yourself.
• Giving yourself the gift of being the best person you can be.
• Paying attention to the promises you make to yourself and others.  Making and keeping promises to ourselves is a measure of our self-worth, how much value we think we have. The promises we make to others reflect our character in the world, which determines the quality of people who will associate with us.
• The more generous we are, the more reliable we are, the more we can attract the successful members of the human race.  When we are surrounded by successful people, we are lifted up to our greatness.  It all comes from keeping your word.  You might need to take a break from promising anything, then slowly put commitments back in at the rate you can keep track and live up to them.
• Taking care of your body, heart, mind, spirit.  If life interferes, take some shortcuts for awhile. However, never cut out the minimum you require to keep from digging yourself into a hole.  For example, B vitamins will even out your moods while you’re under stress.
• Have dignity, stand up for yourself.  Recognize quickly if you’re not being treated well, be wary, and willing to exit those people from your life.
• Cultivate your awareness of what’s best for you and live by that, don’t cut corners. Communicate what you need and what works/doesn’t work for you. Use a quiet volume and see if you can get results by being gentle. If not, be willing to use the volume required to be heard.  You are worth it!
• Forgive your human weaknesses and don’t expect perfection from yourself (or others). We often kick ourselves endlessly for making a mistake.  This comes from a belief that we are a broken, terrible person.  When in reality, humans are messy and we make mistakes all the time.   Use the Ho’oponopono prayer to forgive yourself, apologize to the other person if necessary, recommit to doing your best, and move on.  This is part of a positive thought process.
• Letting people in so you can have the connection you truly crave.
• Receiving support gracefully resources. Being willing to ask for what you need and want.
• Choosing a direction and sticking with it long enough to learn whether you like it or not.
• Having courage – being willing to take emotional risks, to be vulnerable in order to give another person the opportunity to be closer to you.  To look at difficult past situations in order to fully heal and move on. It takes courage to surrender and to be wrong sometimes.
• Looking at the past in order to heal and move on. Don’t let the past define who you are now.
• Defining who you want to be and keeping that promise to yourself.
• Talking kindly to yourself.
• Rewarding yourself for your achievements
• Choosing good people to be around you.  Creating win-win relationships.
• Learning how to open your divine heart and loving the hurt places inside in order to heal.
• Being willing to see the truth and only the truth.  Accept the truth and make choices from acceptance instead of resistance.
• …and this list could go on and on…😊